Getting Married: Straight and Trans Couples

Image of a married coupleWhether you’re straight or trans you’re really welcome to get married at St Werburgh’s – so long as you are legally male and female the law treats you the same… and yes we agree totally that its wrong that gay people are not treated in this way but its the law of the land …… and we are playing our part in trying to change this situation.

We are always delighted when couples choose to be married at St. Werburgh’s and we work very hard to ensure that the service is unforgettable for all the right reasons and the highlight of the wedding day.

One really important point to get clear right at the start 

We never ever, under any circumstances work with wedding planners!  Nor will we plan or negotiate with parents, siblings, friends about anything to do with your wedding…. its your day and the only people we will work with are you.  If you are using a wedding planner then they have absolutely no involvement in any aspect of what happens in or around, before, during or after the church service….

Arranging a wedding is a huge practical undertaking and we’ve pulled together all the information you need in the section below.

However it is easy to get lost in the details and forget the importance of the day itself. We encourage all our couples to spend time reflecting on this important change in their lives and planning their future life together and not just the wedding day itself and we’d really like to welcome you to church so you can spend some time with God and with us before your day!

Who can get married at St Werburgh’s?

You may also be married here if you satisfy any of the following qualifying connections:

  • if this is the parish where you were baptised and/or confirmed
  • if you have lived in this parish for 6 months or more, at any time during your lives
  • if you have attended worship in this parish for at least 6 months
  • if this is the parish where your parents have lived or worshipped (during your lifetime)
  • if your parents or grandparents were married in this parish

What if none of the above fit?

If you don’t fall into one of the categories above you have two choices:

  • You can start worshipping with us regularly and after a period of 6 months you will meet the legal criteria.
  • You could do the legal bit at the Registry Office and then come along to us for a blessing after a civil ceremony… it can look exactly like a wedding – just leaving out the legal bit!

What if one or both of us are divorced?

If either (or both) of you have been married before and divorced this is not a barrier to being married in the Anglican Church and it certainly isn’t a problem for us, (though if you have been married and divorced more than once it is something the priest marrying you will want to discuss at an early stage before you go ahead with all your plans.   It is really important you let us know when you book your wedding and we will need to see a your decree absolute. 

What if either or both of us don’t live in England or if one of us does not have a British Passport?

Its OK, so long as you meet one of the criteria above you can still get married here, just not by Banns….. you will need to get either a superintendent registrar’s licence or a common licence depending on your circumstances – so its really important to mention this early on!

Download our Wedding Pack

If you’re planning on getting married here then you’ll need to download the current wedding pack